This is so timely! Just two nights ago I was at the library trying to make some decisions about things that can potentially change my life forever (I say this because granted, I wasn’t there to study for uni… for now…), and these two freshmen sat right next to me, yelling and laughing at the top of their whatever… Colorado folks are unusually nice so no one said a word… even the ones who actually WERE there to study…
The first impulse was to snap, and that’s usually when I take a walk and think of all the reasons why I should stay quiet, but well, that night I was already frustrated, so I had to speak up.
I did it nicely, and the boys obliged :)
But boy do I get it! It’s also funny to see when people choose to speak up. Usually when the other person feels less intimidating. Like, typically people would be much more prone to exercise parrhesia when it’s a woman, an international student who has a generally docile look, or.. well, you know what I’m talking about … it’s a sad reality, really.