I believe all communities go through what you’re experiencing, especially at it’s infancy. I’m not exactly LGBTQ literate, but I do believe and understand it’s still fairly new, not only to the rest of the world, but even within itself. I remember only a decade ago, my queer (male) friend wearing a skirt was being booed and called names and being told to go to hell.

To go from that to being able to openly celebrate who you are is still relatively new, and people are most likely still trying to figure out what it all means to be queer. It’s a crisis of identity, and I’m afraid the community simply has to live through it before it develops and matures.

I’ve felt the same among women. As a 30 something female engineer or color in a male dominated field, I’ve experienced two polar opposite reactions from my peers: women who are not engineers or on a broader level, not pursuing a career that has otherwise been standard issue for men, and women who are in the science and tech sector. The first assumed we are somehow lacking in femininity, and the latter loathed the presence of femininity.

I used past tense because things have now changed a lot. We’re still not where we should be, but we’re getting better. To quote you (and LeBron), “be better tomorrow.”

It will get better. The LGBTQ community needs people like yourself to point out where improvement is necessary. I’m not saying it will be easy. In fact, some even within your own community may ostracize you for being different, or for not “fitting in”. But in the end, whistle blowers are the ones who bring about changes.

So yeah, good luck, and keep it up!

I’m an engineer, writer, and amateur photographer. I write about what I know and what I’m trying to make sense of.

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